A Bread Crumb and Fish

My ex-neighbor died a couple days ago because of a heart attack. His wife found him sitting on the bathroom floor unexpectedly. It's hard enough when one expects such tragedy, and I could see it in her eyes that she was truly, truly heartbroken. She kept repeating the phrase, "I know God's in control, but..." and it really hit the spot in my heart.

I wonder how I would react to hardships that seem overwhelming at the time. I've always viewed struggles as blessings from God, but sometimes I wonder if I'll just breakdown and start seeing the very opposite. I think since God is the cause, He is definitely subject to blame. Blame as in crying in pain as a child to a father, hoping that he would somehow ease the pain and give understanding rather than cursing or pouring hatred. Will I turn to God for guidance or will I fall?